Say to children that sometimes we feel things just a little bit and at other times we feel them a lot.
Something might make us a smile, or make us really happy! Something might make us feel down, or really sad and upset. Something might make us a little bit annoyed. But what if we felt that a lot more, if you were very annoyed?
Answer: You might get angry
Any new words can be added to the Feelings Mood Bank.
Introduce the film by saying that today Zoe and Joey are speaking all about very strong feelings.
In this film, Zoe and Joey explore very strong feelings.
Click to play.
Facilitate a discussion about what Zoe should do?
Choice 1 – Fight Lucy
Choice 2 – Never talk to Lucy again
Choice 3 – Tell her Mum
Choice 4 – Talk to Lucy
In this follow-up film, Zoe and Joey find a resolution.
Click to play.
Ask the following questions about the film to help reinforce learning:
• What was the problem? (Zoe not being invited to her best friend Lucy’s birthday party)
• How did it make Zoe feel? (Upset and angry)
• In choosing what to do next, what options did Zoe have? (Fighting, never talking to Lucy again, talk to her Mum, talk to Lucy)
• What did she do? (Talk to Mum and Lucy)
• What did she learn? (That feelings and actions are two different things)
Ask the children to share with a partner any examples when they have felt very angry/upset etc. How did they choose to act? Looking back, do they think that was the most sensible thing to do?
Share some of these back to the class.
Facilitate the Feelings v Actions activity below. The specific outcomes for this activity are:
• For children to identify feelings and actions as different things, and sort them into columns.
• To demonstrate an understanding that certain negative feelings can make people want to take a negative action, but we have always choice about what do.
• To contribute to group negotiations about alternative positive actions that could come from negative feelings, in order to learn how to do this independently.
Feelings v Actions Activity
1. Children to sort Feeling cards and Action cards into separate groups.
2. Then pair a feeling with an action that could come from it – there might be more than one. If any of the actions are negative, they should come up with an alternative positive action instead, eg. instead of biting your nails when you’re worried, talk to someone about why you’re worried.
3. Share back with the class, particularly the alternative actions.
4. Ask class for examples of people making good choices about how to act, even when they felt sad or angry.
5. Ask how it might feel to make those good choices? (Like Joey, it actually makes us feel a lot better!)
Summarise this session’s learning points:
• Feelings and Actions are two different things.
• Sometimes feelings can lead to actions.
• But also actions can lead to feelings. E.g. when we choose to give a gift to someone, it often makes us happy!
• When we make good choices about how to act, we often feel better for it!